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The shutdown really begins - create some space...

How are you managing?

We know that divorce lawyers are busy after the holidays.  We know that spending time together at home in a family setting can lead to intensifying hostilities. If you live alone, it can lead to greater feelings of isolation.

So, are you going to use the enforced shutdown for more bickering and heartache, or as a chance to gain a new perspective on your life?

Given you are stuck at home, you might want to consider consulting a therapist.

There are drawbacks about doing this from home with others around. You don't get the chance to make the journey to your therapist's room. That in-between time often allows space for the mind to clear itself from the debris of every day life. There are of course rituals about going to see your therapist. For instance, a coffee, or a particular route. All of those are gone. So, you have to create your own space, both in your head and in your home.

You'll need to find a room where you won't be interrupted, and where you feel you can speak without being overheard. If you're using Zoom, you'll need to create the right angles with your computer and phone so you feel comfortable.  If you're using a landline or phone, you'll need to make sure it has enough charge for 50 minutes.

Attending to these practical concerns will help carve out the psychological space you'll need to have a more meaningful engagement with your therapist.  Once the "frame" has been set up, you'll be able to free your mind up more, and allow yourself to get into the process.